A post on the "Creating a Family" blog inspired me

The author of that blog, Dawn was talking about the attitude many people have towards adoption and one line really grabbed me so I decided to reply: Here it is...

The line “adoption is not a cure for infertility” hits the nail on the head. My husband and I will be approved for a domestic infant adoption in the next 2 weeks and while for us it was the alternative to therapies like IVF, it certainly does not “cure” the fact that I’m infertile. What’s interesting is that once we started the application process and started telling a few friends I especially felt hit by an attitude like “everything should be fine now and you should be happy”. In fact, I was hit by that attitude on my message board support group who had been with me through the charting, doctors appts, procedures, drugs…yet still they thought that adoption “fixed” it.* Even I naively thought that the decision to adopt would make it all better. The lack of education and information regarding infertility, especially the emotional aspects, really is a disservice to society as a whole and especially the infertile couple. I feel lucky that I went through this in the age of the internet because I found so much support that hasn’t been available in the past. Oh, and a comment on the $40k to $50k adoptions…while that is a possibility, our adoption agency charges about the same as one IVF cycle would have been (about $17k). Much of that we’ll get back in tax credits.

*Ok, a caveat here. I know I'm generalizing and not everyone thought that. Some did though.