Such a heavy heart...

For the first time I'm really affected by the pregnancy loss of one of my friends.  I'm not sure why (maybe nutty hormones given what time of the month it is) but this one really got to me.  It's a friend of mine whom I met on an FF message board I used to belong to.  On her second round of IVF it appeared that everything was going along swimmingly and she started buying some baby gear (the last update I got from her was at 14 weeks)....then it happened. Again.  I found out last night on FB and reading that they lost both babies made me cry.  And it made me mad.  Why her?  Why anyone who's had multiple miscarriages?  Why any of us who want to have babies and can't?