Blogging About Adoption

I've been reading other blogs on adoption, all authored by different members of the triad.  One blog I read today had a post highlighting some terrific gaffes prospective adoptive parents make while writing on their blogs.  I'm not sure that the prospective adoptive mother writing "our birthmother" believes that in some way she "owns" that birthmother.  However, if you take a step back, and think about the connotation, it's not a good choice of words. 

It brings to light how important it is to be careful about the words you choose.  S and I had a conversation regarding adoption last night and both of us are really starting to focus on the correct terminology and it's difficult because the incorrect terminology is rampant in society as a whole.  We probably screw up often and don't mean to and we probably should be correcting more people when they express their ignorance through lame comments, and I have probably written some things in my own posts that could be construed as offensive to other members of the triad.  I can tell you I don't mean it, that I was writing too fast, that I didn't re-read the post before publishing, and that I was most likely emotional at the time.  Still, someone may read what I've wrote and find all my mistakes too.  I just hope I don't make too many.