Telling Strangers

Sort of.  Over the weekend, one of S's co-workers invited a client to the company condo for skiing.  Since S is working on the same project, we stopped by Friday night (btw, mountains totally didn't get snow but getting out of Denver was sucky) for dinner.  One couple has 2 kids, another couple has an infant.  Yee-haw.  I got myself mentally prepared and was ready to dive into the adoption conversation.  Thankfully it went well and they were curious and of course knew someone who had adopted from (fill in the blank)... I felt really good about the conversation but it took a lot of energy.  It was the first time we had spoken openly about it to people S works with.  He's told some people but is hoping to keep the news from some others for as long as possible, because once they find out he'll get the barrage of stupid comments and questions.  In fact, I'd put lots of money and double down on that bet.  Anyhoo...

On Saturday, we had a conversation with a guy who showed up for the day.  After the conversation the previous night I was pretty pooped and didn't feel like talking adoption again.  When this guy asked if we had kids yet, I let S give the standard, "No, not yet" answer and prayed that the conversation ended there.  Mr. Nosy continued "So, any talk of kids, do you want kids?"  I practically jumped out of my chair yelling Who the fuck do you think you are?.  Yeah, not really,  but I snapped a little and said we were adopting and then had to go through the standard question/answer session.  And I sooo did not feel up to it.  

Two totally different encounters over the course of two days.  What's interesting is that I was ready to talk on Friday so there wasn't the chance to dodge once someone asked us if we were going to have kids.  But when I don't feel like educating (and face it, that's what you have to do every time you tell someone new) I really want them to drop the subject if we say "no kids yet."