Drawing Lines

I have a hard time having an opinion about what C wants when it comes to Baby X.  She wants to bring gifts everytime?  Sure.  Buy a cake when it's near his birthday?  Ok. (Damn good cake, I might add)

No problem...although sometimes the gifts are a little much, but you know, who am I to say what she can or can't do in the way of gifts for Baby X?

But, for this meeting, the request is a little more.  Today, I don't know what to think.  While, on one hand, it seems benign, and we'll be meeting in a neutral place, it's a little unsettling.  We're leaning toward saying no for now.  (Not to the visit itself, but to the other people who aren't related to Baby X coming along).

How do you draw the line when it's something not neccessarily safety related, but still a little uncomfortable?

P.s.  antibiotics totally don't work when you have a virus.  Damn.  No simple strep for me!  At least I'm finally feeling better even though this weekend was still pretty rough.