Open Adoption Roundtable #43 - Talking with Family Members about Open Adoption

The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. 

Well, I'd be remiss if I didn't say there isn't a whole lot of talking about open adoption with either of our families.  We attempted to educate them on the topic of adoption, and as a whole they weren't particularly interested.   Open adoption?  Scary.

So, as far as the openness we have with C goes, we mention when we see her, and we'll talk about the little gifts that she brings to Baby X.  They generally mutter something non-committal, or look surprised that we're still keeping contact and continue on with whatever they are doing.

I know that part of it is that we are fiercely protective of C and her situation so discussing details is a little tricky.  Until our relationship with C is solid, and probably until Baby X has a say in the whole idea of revealing more, we aren't going to push the issue.   At this point, then, there isn't a whole lot to talk about, except to continue making it clear that this is a relationship that is not going to fade.  That's probably the point for us to be communicating right now, and I think that we're doing a decent job of it.