About Extended Family

I'm not invited to my cousins baby showers.

So, that leaves me to wonder, who is driving the ship? One of my cousins knows about my strained relationship with my mom, yet I'm not invited. Not that I could travel across country for these but it still kind of stings. 

How did I find out? 

Well, funny thing, I invited my parents to the memorial service for S's grandfather. Afterwards my mom tells me she'll be out of town on a certain weekend. I figure out pretty quickly it's for a baby shower and her response is this, "They didn't know if they should invite you because it might make you upset."

Lets unpack for a minute. Suppose they are being sensitive to my infertility all of the sudden. How about being sensitive to the infertile one by asking that person?  Oh right, triangulation.