Well, that was a hilarious statement I made about posting once a week.
I've had trouble writing ever since we completed the adoption process once and for all. I don't know what to write about if I'm not bitching about the wait or how I feel about waiting, or infertility. I've substituted that with the ongoing family issues I have, but now that I'm thoroughly entrenched in therapy and estrangement, I kind of don't want to write about it. At some point, it becomes repetitive and unhelpful. But, as an update to the last post, I talked about it in therapy and was given a couple of empowerment exercises. One was to email my cousin, which I did. When I sent the e-mail I felt sick and shaky. Apparently that's how I react to empowering myself to speak up. Which is hilarious when I think about how I see myself as someone who can ask for what they want. Except that I don't most of the time. Anyway, cousin told me she had no idea I wasn't invited and she was sorry it happened that way. Positive response and I think maybe she's getting it slowly that our mothers are control freaks. The second e-mail needs to go to my mom, and it is a repeat of other times when I have asked my mom to stop speaking for me and to suggest family members talk to me directly. I haven't sent that one yet. I might puke when I do.
I have a hard time thinking that any of you are interested in my day to day life of 2 kids and work and exercise. So, are you interested? Because here it is! For all I know I've done it before, but hey, things are insane now.
Monday - S takes the kids to daycare and I pick up while S works out at the gym or goes biking. Sometimes I drag my ass out of bed early in the morning to lift some weights in my basement. Lately, that has not been happening. I try to get into work a little bit early, generally spend the day trying to stay on top of all my projects and emails and then leave exhausted to pick up the kids, wrangle X and Baby Z, make dinner and listen to the X complain about what I made. Sometimes he eats, sometimes he doesn't. At least Baby Z eats although he's at the age where some pickiness is showing. Sometimes I let X play on his Kind.le or watch tv for about an hour and sometimes I say no, which can lead to a whole lot of "I don't like yous" directed at me.
Tuesday - I take the kids to daycare and S picks up. I used to work out Tuesday nights, but now it's a rest day because I'm old. I can't work out Tuesday night then teach at 6am in the morning. I really couldn't tell you what I've been doing on Tuesdays lately. Probably trying to review my class for the morning.
Wednesday - I teach Jazz.ercise at 6am, which comes super early. Work all day, then pick up the kids from daycare. Everything that happens on Monday tends to repeat on Wednesday.
Thursday - I take the kids to daycare and S picks up. I ride my bike after work or go to the gym to lift weights. (we joined the Y a few months ago). Lately, it's been focused on riding my bike. If the weather sucks, the Y has a spin class I can go to. Now, the Y's instructors, at least for spin, leave something to be desired. I'm pretty disappointed. Anyhoo, I get home and S has made or ordered dinner. (we're getting better about making more dinners)
Friday - Total rest day. I usually take the kids to daycare and S picks up and then it's beer-thirty.
Saturday - It's summer and I'm in cycling training hardcore. I do a 4-5 hour ride at this point, then do some other household tasks maybe...mostly chasing kids around.
Sunday - S does his cycling training or goes mountain biking. He's gone for 4-5 hours. I teach Jazzer.cise in the afternoon. Usually I'm trying to learn a couple routines and put my set together for the week once S gets home. Or I put X in front of a movie when Baby Z takes a morning nap (which is going away...nooooo!) In between there's a lot of kid time and not so much cleaning or meal prep like should be getting accomplished.
So, how do we try to keep the house in order? It's no freaking lie, it takes a village. We have cleaners come in once a month so that at least the house gets a decent cleaning. I try to keep up as much as I can in-between, but lately, I see the mess as immunity building. Ha, I'm taking after S. We also use a grocery delivery service and order copious amounts of stuff online thru Ama.zon subscribe and save. Our Cos.tco card is severely underused of late! I also use online recipe planning services for dinner planning and grocery shopping. I should meal prep on Sundays and sometimes I manage to do a little bit of that, but it's definitely something that I'd rather NOT do. It does make dinner making during the week easier when I do it, but most of the time the last thing I feel like doing is standing in my kitchen chopping vegetables for 2 hours. Currently, our front yard is a nightmare. The xeriscape that went in several years ago is in need of a major refresh and we don't have money to hire a landscaper to do it, so it's going to fall to us. Given that the two of us combined spend up to 10 hours a weekend working out, it's a slow process that has barely started and it's already June.
That's pretty much it. How do you deal with a busy lifestyle?