Moving Day

I'm pretty ambivalent about the move even as I work on figuring out how to decorate the place. 

Our house is under contract, but we had trouble with the negotiations and the buyers have been doing a lot of inspections. What I mean to say is that I'm not holding my breath. Nothing has gone our way regarding the sale of our house, so getting to closing date on this deal before we have to close on a bridge loan will be a goddamn miracle. 


A Closing

We close on the new house tomorrow, without an offer on our house. This has caused so much stress within my life and marriage it's unfuckingbelievable . I take that back, it's believable, because I've lived this before while trying to have kids. I'm struggling to be excited about the new house while the little voice in my head is screaming "YOU FUCKING IDIOT, WHAT WERE YOU THINKING MAKING A HUGE DECISION LIKE THIS AND COUNTING ON YOUR HOUSE SELLING IN 2 WEEKS? NOW LOOK AT THE MESS YOU'RE IN"

This is what happens when I don't listen to Lainey's mom! I'm a Tiger and S is a Pig. Apparently a perfect love match, so at least we have that going for us. Basically, I'm not supposed to rush into any big decisions, and S isn't going to have a great year plus there could be financial implications. Ya think?

Chinese horoscopes and their interpretations aside, now we are in a pickle and it goes a little something like this:

- take a big chunk of $ out of S's IRA to cover our cash at closing tomorrow.

- Put said big chunk back into the IRA within 60 days or end up with an enormous tax bill

- Apply for a bridge loan in a couple weeks

- Take out a loan on my retirement account to help cover 2 mortgages and a bridge loan (which pretty much total my entire monthly take home pay)

- Sit and wait for our house to sell. That's where the damn money is. ALL of it.

A Vacation

We went on vacation without the kids. This is the first time we've been away from them for more than 2 nights, and the first real vacation we've had since before X was born. "Real" vacation in my mind includes the beach and no family obligations, you know?

Being away from the kids was pretty easy because I'm lucky to have in-laws who really like taking care of them. S's parents took them for the whole week, and we talked to them everyday making it easy to check in and assess the situation. No complaints were had on either side, except for the inevitable end of the week comment when MIL labeled them high energy, a euphemism for exhausting. (oh, don't I know it)

Now my parents on the other hand? When I asked my mom if they'd like to have them the second half of the week, she said yes. S talked to his mom about it, and then we left it up to the two grandmothers to work out the logistics. Then, we find out on Wednesday that when pressed to set up a time to take the kids my mom told S's parents that she had just gotten back from vacation herself visiting her sisters, was busy and she "understands how precious this time is for them". S's dad was taken aback enough to tell S he wasn't sure what that meant, and S took the opportunity to point out that this is the exact reason why we struggle with the relationship with my parents. S's parents are the opposite of confrontational so they just dropped it and kept the kids for another 4 nights. I don't know why the hell my mom would say something like that and I don't feel like confronting it. I haven't figured out how to ask the right questions to get a real answer, I often wonder if I will get the real answer, and in my head the real answer is that she didn't want to watch them but won't say it. 

Meanwhile, our house has not sold, and I'm losing sleep over the decisions we've made over the past 2 months. We've dropped the price significantly on our house, and it looks like that generated more interest, so we'll see what the next week brings. We close on the new house in 2 weeks and not having this one under contract scares the bejeezus out of me.

So much for I have insomnia.

I'll leave you with pretty pictures




#MicroblogMondays - The Home Stretch to Showing

Three days from now our house will be on the market. I'm over it and so exhausted that I'm taking time off of work to clean and stage. Except that I'm over the cleaning and the purging and the organizing too. My body has fun ways of telling me I'm overextended and this time was no exception, developing an eyelid infection last Thursday that is now going away, but I still look a little bit hung over.

3 more days....

It's like finals week.