Hi, I’m Tara.

What started out as a private blog to document our adoption journey has evolved into my journey through therapy, spiritual awakening and whatever I feel like writing. Without our struggles to build a family, I’m not sure I’d be waking up, and for that I’m grateful.

Homestudy Update

Geez, I didn't have any adoption stuff to write about yesterday! Today I do. We had our last homestudy meeting today and everything is looking good. The director of the agency will check the homestudy and we'll meet with her in a couple of weeks. After that meeting we'll be on the bottom of the waiting list (currently at 41 adoptive parents) and the wait begins. About the wait time...our caseworker said that given our answers on the checklist placement within one year from now is reasonable. Ok, one year from when we'll be "approved" so that'll be the second week of June or so. :-) It's exciting but now I have two weeks to actually write the birthparent letter that I've been putting off for the last couple of months. Like I've said before, I do my best work under pressure. Or so I tell myself. Apparently so does S because he hasn't started either. The meeting was pretty good but it gets so weird when you start discussing race. It's very odd feeling to give a breakdown and percentage of which races you're willing to accept. We're somewhat open in that regard but we do have to draw the line somewhere and discussing that line with the SW "feels" wrong. That just goes to show how much cultural boundaries really do play a role in society. I finally told my surpervisor today that we're adopting and he was very cool about it. All I have to worry about is keeping my project files up to date and keeping a list of projects I'm working on so that if we get the phone call from the hospital-type placement then I can hand over my workload, invoke FMLA and walk out the door for 3 months.

Now I'm going to bore you with kitchen crap because I'm also sooo excited about that! I didn't end up buying granite for the kitchen this week. It turns out that even though the company had marked down the slabs, we need so little materials that we can get counters from other suppliers/fabricators still in business for the same amount of money. However, that little incident of me taking off to look at slabs, getting quotes from other fabricators and talking to S about all this has galvanized his lazy little butt into action. haha. We're going to go to a kitchen design center that has a big showroom this weekend to really start to nail down colors, cabinets and countertop surfaces that we want.


A post on the "Creating a Family" blog inspired me

Soooo sleepy....