Hi, I’m Tara.

What started out as a private blog to document our adoption journey has evolved into my journey through therapy, spiritual awakening and whatever I feel like writing. Without our struggles to build a family, I’m not sure I’d be waking up, and for that I’m grateful.

Taking the Easy Road

We knew we were not taking the easy road when we decided to adopt. Forget the pain of infertility, the hell of the interviews, the mind-numbing amount of information in the classes, the financials and think about strangers. Strangers make it hard after we have legally adopted our child. Strangers make stupid-ass comments like "Where are the real parents", or "You're so (insert lame adjective here) for adopting this poor baby", or they tell us we "Took the baby away from the real parents". Obviously, I'm taking information from others, not my own experiences at this point. Still, the fact that we talk about being prepared for this crap when IT SHOULDN'T MATTER drives me insane.

What prompted these thoughts you ask?  Well, an article I knew I should never read.

After reading the article about the wrong embryo TRANSFER and getting annoyed with the media who can't seem to get the damn terminology right, I went to the comments section. Wow.  The vitriol and hate spewed towards these people is unbelievable as is how people were treating each other on the comment board. And that got me thinking...What the hell is it about families that everyone thinks they have a say in how you conduct your life? Who gives a damn if the couple embroiled in this current controversy already has 3 kids. So, they wanted more and they had the means to make another attempt. Big damn deal. Why aren't people focused more on the CLINIC for making the mistake instead of how wrong it is for her to have more children, or how greedy they are for wanting a large family? It's the CLINIC's fault, not theirs just because they wanted children.

Something a Little Lighter...

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