One of the things the agency does that I feel is a good way to protect the parties involved is to not set up meetings between the expectant parents and the waiting families until she's a few weeks away from her due date. This way, the mother and father (hopefully) doesn't feel coerced into the match by meeting us too early, and we don't have as much emotional risk waiting for the birth of the baby. One of my biggest fears is that the parents feel like they've been pushed to make an adoption plan when maybe one or both of them really didn't want to. I realize the agency is in the business of making successful matches but they have been transparent and I think that they truly have all parties' interests at heart. Their statistics show that there are very few adoptions compared to the number of expectant mothers that inquire or get counseling from them. Still, once we meet the parents is it bad to ask questions about how they feel about their decision? As much as I want a baby, I don't want the parents to regret their decision for the rest of their lives. I'm not saying that it'll be all sunshine and rainbows, I know better than that. Blah, this is difficult to express on the page. I give up.
A couple months ago I thought the wait couldn't get any worse. Boy was I wrong. I'm a jittery bundle of nerves (or maybe it's the king cake and copious amounts of caffeine from today).