Hi, I’m Geochick.

Welcome to my blog. What started out as a private blog to document our adoption journey has evolved into my journey through therapy and spiritual awakening. Without our struggles to build a family, I’m not sure I’d be waking up, and for that I’m grateful.

Waiting and Worrying

While we have been waiting for theoretical baby to be born, my cousin had her baby. I remember when she announced her pregnancy that S and I really hoped to bring home our baby first. Hey, what do you want from us?  I'm competitive, and S is over it.  It was rather fun to be snarky about the whole thing.

We lost that secret race last week.  While I was trying to work out massive amounts of anxiety by riding my bike up a mountain, my cousin was hiking a trail nearby trying to jump-start labor.  While I was having mini-breakdowns every couple of days, my cousin was getting multiple posts on her F-B wall asking if she had the baby yet.  While I was telling myself it was ok to have a couple beers or glasses of wine every single night, she was in her mid-wife's office arguing against being induced.

I found out that her baby had been born by (what else?) a text from my mother.  I also found out that she had a c-section and the baby had some issues (long labor) and had to go to the NICU. All of which, may have been better as a phone conversation?  Oh, right.  She doesn't actually want to have a conversation.

I had a brief reprieve for a few days last week when I allowed myself to hope that this match is for real and will go smoothly.  I think that came after our update last Tuesday when it was re-iterated that J wants us at the hospital ready to take care of baby right after his birth.  I let myself get excited, and I packed the baby bag, my clothes and got X's suitcase partially packed.  I found a sub for my Sunday class because S and I were so sure that she would give birth over the weekend.

The weekend came and went without a phone call.  Monday, I woke up all kinds of pissed off that I had to go to work.  It was a bad day and all the bad thoughts took up residence.  You know the ones if you've been in this position: "
  • She's going to decide to parent, we'll get a phone call telling us that the match is off, 
  • She decided she doesn't want us to raise her baby and chose someone else, 
  • She's AWOL and not communicating with her caseworker
We currently live a informational void.  I can ask for an update today as I know her doctor's appointments are on Tuesdays, and that may ease the anxiety a little bit.

Getting any work done is next to impossible, and a task that I easily should've been able to put to finish last week is getting dragged out despite the full knowledge that the phone call could come at any time.  Other tasks that I need to be starting are falling by the wayside, and some of those have September deadlines on them that can't be missed.  Yet, here I sit, staring blankly into space, checking my e-mail every 5 minutes, reading news sites, and doing anything that doesn't require actual brain power.

Update on Waiting and Worrying

August ICLW