Hi, I’m Tara.

What started out as a private blog to document our adoption journey has evolved into my journey through therapy, spiritual awakening and whatever I feel like writing. Without our struggles to build a family, I’m not sure I’d be waking up, and for that I’m grateful.



Why I decided to participate in ICLW this month is beyond me as my maternity leave ends tomorrow and I go back to work. Needless to say, I may not be the awesomest commenter this month. But, I thank all of you for stopping my tiny corner of the internet!

Since it's been a while, here's a quick rundown of me and my blog

  • Cast of characters: S, my husband, X my oldest son, Baby Z my youngest son

  • X and Z came to our family through private domestic adoption

  • Both of our adoption waits were about 2 years long. During the wait for Baby Z, we had one failed placement and one failed match. Those shook us to our core.

  • Our final adoption hearing for Baby Z's adoption is in early April. We are looking forward to being done with the process

  • During the wait for Baby Z, I sought therapy which has resulted in some unwanted truths about my family, but has also gone a long way to healing me. Now, I'm wading through the process of holding to my boundaries.

  • Over the weekend, things blew up with S's family, and it was a huge trigger for me. Hence, the previous post (which I have taken down). I admit that I didn't realize how I should have brought up the subject of what grandparents should and shouldn't give to my kid. Turns out, I was way the hell out of line, and that has blown up into a major issue involving not only grandparents but my sister in law. Good times.

I went through infertility treatments a long time ago now, but some of my friends are going through it presently. One has been referred to an RE, and unfortunately it's the RE I went to and don't like. However, this RE accepts the insurance my friend has, which as you know, is HUGE in infertility treatment. Especially when the insurance covers a whole lot of diagnostic testing and some treatment. Anyway, one thing I would love to get out of this ICLW is a list of questions my friend should be asking when she goes in to her appointments. I'd also like to know how RE's tend to be approaching treatments these days. I know a lot has happened since I quit treatments, and I didn't even go through IVF. Feel free to comment here or to send me an e-mail with any resources that may be helpful to my friend. geochick1 at gmail dot com

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