I went to a gathering with other transracial adoptive moms, and had a great time. In that gathering soeone asked who is part of the Tranracial Adoption Facebook group. I'm in that group and I find that I have to take frequent breaks from the group because of the charged nature of the posts. It's good to get the point of view of adoptees and birth parents, but at the same time I have to take breaks to sit with the uncomfortable feelings.
So, when I come across a transracial adoptive parent blog where the "about" sends me reeling, I get bitchy.
Let me tell you what adoption is not. Adoption is not saving anyone. Adoption is not the family we were "supposed" to have. I have issues with that statement when people have gone through infertility treatments and then decided on adoption as an option.
We cut off infertility treatments early, 3 IUIs, and we moved on.
I would be lying if I said that the family I have now is the family we're supposed to have.
And do you know why?
Because adoption didn't enter my mind until I couldn't get pregnant. I have no doubt that people who have always planned on adopting can say that with conviction. There are so many