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Hi, I’m Tara.

What started out as a private blog to document our adoption journey has evolved into my journey through therapy, spiritual awakening and whatever I feel like writing. Without our struggles to build a family, I’m not sure I’d be waking up, and for that I’m grateful.

#MicroblogMondays - Estrangement

 

 

If you've been following my blog for a while, you know I've had some really upsetting revelations and interactions with my family over the past few years. I learned that the way I was raised and treated by my parents is not the way most people raise and treat their children. Especially when their children become adults. It's been earth shattering and extremely difficult to deal with. I've been trying different things, like setting boundaries, being assertive, and asking for what I need from (especially) my mom. My dad is largely silent.

Well, when the same exact thing happened that has happened time and time again, and when I expressed to my mother that I was hurt by her actions and felt like she wasn't being cognitive of my hurt and what I've been through, it was finally over.  It turned into the same fight, me trying to impress upon her what I need and feeling dismissed over and over again.

Break Time

Small Annoyances