For a while I’ve wanted to DNA test X and Z. While we know half of X’s background, we know very little about the other half and I’ve always had a weird relationship with not knowing. Like, we can go to Indian-Nepalese Adoption Heritage Camp and know exactly where his birthmother’s family originates. When we went to Latin American Adoption Heritage Camp, we had to tell him which country, and we made an educated guess. Anyway, getting the DNA test finally provided answers. 1) we guessed right. 2) he’s matched with some 2nd cousins. The results could be a piece of the puzzle for him in the future.
Z’s test is on its way to the lab and I’m really curious to know about his results because we know even less about his ethnicity beyond Western European.
To think, what was once expensive and somewhat unreachable is now at our fingertips. Technology can be pretty cool that way, although it also opens up potential problems for families keeping secrets. It brings me back to the reason why it’s so important to be open with kids who are adopted and kids who have been conceived via donor eggs/sperm. No one wants to learn that they were lied to.